Wolverine by Simon Fraser
“I have no special talent. I am only passionately curious.” -Albert Einstein
Comic book/Alice Cooper Album Covers by Uwe De Witt / Website
The hardest part about letting him in has been the vulnerability. Specifically, the vulnerability without the physical reassurance. When I’m unsure, when I’m feeling weak, when I want to run because I’m scared…I need him to hold me tight and remind me where I belong. I need his strength to push off, to find my balance.I need him to remind me he only wants me.
I need him to remind me its ok to need.
The most basic difference between
S/M and abuse is Consent.
It is not consent if…
•You did not expressly give consent.
•You are afraid to say no.
•You say yes to avoid conflict.
•You say yes to avoid consequences (i.e. losing a job, losing your home, being outed).
S/M is…
•Always consensual.
•Done with respect for limits.
•Enjoyed by all partners.
•Fun, erotic, and loving.
•Done with an understanding of trust.
•Never done with the intent to harm or damage.Just because you consent to play does not mean you consent to everything. You have the right to set limits.